I don't know what to call it when someone makes your partner sad. It crushes me. It makes me angry. How can someone be so fickle? Or so uncaring?
When I don't hear from you because another partner is upsetting you, I get worried. I don't mind if you're on a date and having a blast, but if the last thing I hear is that you're upset, and then you disappear, I start to get sad, and I begin to think you are shutting me out. Not because you don't love me, but because you are shutting the world out.
That's not a good place. I hope you're okay. I'll be here, by the phone, when you're ready. I'll be here, with a hug and a snuggle, to brighten your world and make it okay.